how does the one child policy affect children's ministry

i have observed that at some mainland chinese ministries, that the one child policy (as well as the extended family structure) can have a negative impact on ministry.

a bit of background:

* in some families, 6 adults (4 grannies, 2 parents) focuses their energy to raise one child, thus raising the status of child to the top of their priorities

* in most churches in sydney , i guess the main engine room for children's ministry would be mothers that have children.

* in a typical mandarin speaking church, there will be lots of grandparents that have migrated as part of family relocation to sydney. Given their age and background, it is obvious that for some people, some of the views will be different to what a Australian based/Christian worldview. (at this point, i need to reiterate, i am NOT criticizing old people. Some of the older Chinese Christians i have met suffered unimaginably for the gospel and their experiences and perserverance is worthy of our respect).

* in some more informal settings for children's ministry, grandparents asks to be involved, due to a mixture of boredom, concern for their kids, and other reasons.

* this is complicated by the fact that the chinese view of of the extended family (v nuclear family)

* old people are respected in the Chinese (and many tradations), hence it's hard to give them advice on how to run things (like Christian children ministry).

What's the results of the above explosive mix?

there is a potential of children's ministry in some mainland chinese majority churches where ministry decisions are influenced by older people, with a chinese view of having the child at the centre of attention and the apex the pyramid of priorities.

i.e. child > parents

this is very different from the God ordained order of creation

God> man (i.e. parents) > child

it is this that i struggle with as my wife is now pregnant. Namely, whether it is possible to join a Chinese ministry that has a healthy sunday school. At present, i can't see it happening, hence i am staying at an english speaking chiense church.